The Father disciplines those He loves

and you have forgotten the exhortation which reasons with you as with sons, "My son, don't take lightly the chastening of the Lord, Nor faint when you are reproved by him; For whom the Lord loves, he chastens, And scourges every son whom he receives." It is for discipline that you endure. God deals with you as with sons, for what son is there whom his father doesn't discipline? But if you are without discipline, whereof all have been made partakers, then are you illegitimate, and not sons. Furthermore, we had the fathers of our flesh to chasten us, and we paid them respect. Shall we not much rather be in subjection to the Father of spirits, and live? For they indeed, for a few days, punished us as seemed good to them; but he for our profit, that we may be partakers of his holiness. All chastening seems for the present to be not joyous but grievous; yet afterward it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been exercised thereby. -Hebrews 12:5-11

You're considered to be a good citizen of a country if you obey all the laws of that land, and if you disobey one of these laws you are judged according to the laws you broke. But if you are a son, your father has a set of laws in his house that are not included in the legislation of the country you live in, but still he asks you to obey those laws, those rules he established in his house. If you break any of his rules you are punished according to what the father sees fit for what you've done wrong. If you go to a court of law, the judge won't care if you've cleaned your room or not, he cares if you obeyed the laws of the land and he considers you guilty or innocent according to the laws of the land and not to the rules in you father's house.
If you dishonor your father, he doesn't care how good of a citizen you are and how well you've kept all the laws of your country, he will punish you to correct your character, even though you didn't break any law.
If Adonai relates to you only as a citizen of a country that either keeps the law or breaks it, then you will answer to Him only according to His Law. But if Adonai is your Father (which can only be obtain through Yeshua) then He'll have other expectations from you, greater than only keeping the Law. Keeping the Law is easy compared to being a good son, because the punishment for a son is greater for it is not only according to the Law of the Kingdom, but according to the rules in His house. By punishment I do not mean sickness or curses that come as a result of sin. Punishment of the Father is not for breaking His Law (which is sin) but for things that I need to correct in my character in order to honor my Father's Name.
So if I get it that He holds back certain things from me so that I learn to be better, then I must endure being 'disciplined' as a daughter, knowing that I am not punished for breaking any law but because I need correction to be able to represent Him better, and even if that is grievous for now, it will bring forth a good fruit in time.

Bat Melech בת מלך
Cristina